Being there for someone is an art, not a science. There’s no formula or instruction manual because every situation is different.

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Be There Basics will help you learn how to recognize when someone might be struggling with their mental health and gives you 5 Golden Rules to help you support and be there for them.
 

Recognizing warning signs

We all experience less than optimal mental health now and then; whether that’s because of fear, sadness, stress, confusion, grief, or some other kind of mental distress.

What’s important is to recognize when the mental distress you or someone around you is experiencing becomes a mental health problem.

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Someone may be struggling with their mental health if you notice a change in their thoughts, feelings and behaviours that is:

Intense 
(stronger and more persistent than usual ups and downs)
Long-lasting
(usually two weeks or more)
Negatively affecting 
their daily routine, relationships or responsibilities

Just Be There

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No matter what someone’s going through, being there for them is an art, not a science.
 
There’s no formula to make everything better. But that’s not your job. You don’t have to craft the perfect conversation, you don’t have to have it all figured out.  You don’t have to fix things, you just have to Be There.

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The Golden Rules

If you’re concerned someone’s mental distress is more than the regular ups and downs of life, use Be There’s Golden Rules to check in with them and talk about what’s going on.

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Say what you see

Learn how to break the ice and start the conversation.

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Show You Care

Learn how to build trust and support someone.

3

Hear Them Out

Learn how to be a good listener and balance the conversation.

4

Know Your Role

Learn how to set boundaries to protect your relationship and your mental health.

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Connect to Help

Learn how to help someone access professional and community resources.

The Golden Rules can’t tell you exactly what to do to support someone because every person and situation is different. Instead, the Golden Rules are a guide to understanding how to be there in whatever circumstances you find yourself.

Questions from the community

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How do I tell the difference between regular changes in mood and symptoms of a mental health problem? I'm struggling with my mental health, can I still be there for someone?

How to start the conversation

Concerned about someone but not sure how to start the conversation? Learn to Say What You See.

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