It showed me that I need to broaden my support system.
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Estyr & Kirbie’s Story
It showed me that I need to broaden my support system. | Estyr & Kirbie’s Story
“I just felt like everyone was asking for more and more and I was like, ‘There's nothing left to give.’” Estyr and Kirby met in university and while living together was “super fun,” it was also challenging. Kirby was going through some tough stuff, as we all do, and began to rely heavily on his friendship with Estyr for support. In the absence of physical boundaries, setting emotional boundaries in their friendship was especially hard. Anytime Kirby was a little lonely, needed comfort, or just wanted to chat, he would call Estyr, flooding her phone with texts and missed calls. It was too much, he was stretching Estyr too thin. It took a lot of hard conversations and some creative problem solving, but as Kirby explains, “This boundary was because she loved me, and it was so that our relationship could stay healthy.”