Sometimes just knowing someone is there for you can make a world of difference.


Showing you care can create a safe environment for that person, allowing them to open up and feel comfortable enough to talk things through. Part of being there for someone is also finding practical ways to help them get through their day to day life.

Create a safe environment

Everything you do and say is a little clue to the people around you as to how approachable and trustworthy you are. Being critical of someone (like their weight/clothing/accent etc.) might suggest that you’ll also be judgemental of someone’s mental health struggle. Being inclusive, compassionate, helpful, and a good listener in your daily interactions signals to others that you care about people and you’re a safe person to reach out to.

Actions speak louder than words


Telling someone you’re there for them is a good first step. Even if you don’t know what to say, just shoot them a text to let them know you’re thinking about them. It’s also helpful to show you care through your tone of voice, body language and your actions.

When hanging out, put away your phone and look them in the eye.
Ask to give them a hug, put a hand on their shoulder, or hold their hand (if appropriate!).
Don’t rush the conversation; ensure you have enough time to show that you’re prioritizing them.
Offer practical help like making dinner, giving someone a ride, or running errands for them. 

Wali & Fariha

Lost in Translation

Wali & Fariha

Practical everyday support

Life is busy. We all get overwhelmed from time to time, even under the best of circumstances. Finding ways to help a struggling friend get through their day-to-day can be a huge weight off their shoulders and can sometimes be the best way to show you care.

Some practical examples:

Give someone a lift or lend them your bike or transit pass.

Take a few chores off their plate.

Make them a meal or bring them their favourite food.

Write out the questions they have for their doctor.

Offer to go with them to an appointment or to pick up their prescriptions.

Help them organize finances, complete paperwork and keep track of appointments.

Offer to share notes if you have a class together.

Visit them at their home, or in the hospital.

Shawn & Shaiya

Tough love

Shawn & Shaiya

Figure out what support they need

Henry & Nightingale

Under Pressure

Henry & Nightingale

Questions from the community

What can I do to help life continue on as usual? How do I offer support without sounding condescending? What if they have a panic attack? What if they live far away?

How to be a good listener

You’ve started the conversation, they know you care, now it’s time to listen. Learn how to Hear Them Out.

Be There